Agony Aunt – January 2019

My birthday is coming up and I have a strong feeling my boyfriend is going to propose but I think we should wait till I graduate. Suggestions?

As I have said before honesty is the best policy, just confront him and let him know how you feel. Or you can take a subtler approach and drop hints about how it is “too soon” or “silly to get engaged in uni”. Although remember that getting engaged doesn’t mean you have to start planning a wedding straight away – it’s just another way of showing your commitment to one another.

I recently had sex with my boyfriend and after we had finished it transpired that he hadn’t worn a condom. I was furious and threw him out. However, half an hour later I realised that this was not the case. What should I do?

Just talk about it! Admit it was a mistake and it’s just something you feel really strongly about. They should understand that sexual health is very important, especially if this is a new relationship. You had a right to be upset but unfortunately, these things do happen!

My friend seems to be ghosting me and a few other friends for no reason and I’m not sure why. Should I confront her?

I am a firm believer that friends who don’t make an effort aren’t worth your time, but I would confront her first to make sure there isn’t a deeper reason for her ghosting. She could be struggling with something personal that is making her act this way.

Started dating this guy and I’m a bit nervous about having sex with him as I haven’t done it in over a year.

The nerves are understandable, but the best thing to do is make sure you are comfortable with the situation. If this person genuinely likes you then being honest with them won’t put him off. Being understanding of your feelings should relax you. And just have fun! It’s sex!

I truly dislike one of my flatmates. Any suggestions on how to cope?

Surround yourself with those you do like. If you are in a situation with just the two of you just leave or call a friend to avoid talking to them. It’s good to be civil for the sake of the others but that doesn’t mean you have to be friends. It’s never easy but unless it’s taking a serious toll on you mentally than just stick with it – time will go much quicker than you think.

by Katie Brewster


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